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Tattoos and Christianity-What Do You Think?

Tattoos are such a controversial topic with many, not just within the Christian community. Many people feel that it is dumb to mark your bodies with a permanent branding, of sorts. Others feel that if they feel strongly enough about something, putting that object/idea/etc. on their skin forever shows the ultimate commitment. Where do you fall on the spectrum?

**Please note that the below is my opinion on the topic and is not stating that if you do or do not have tattoos that it makes you more or less of a Christian or anything of the sort.**

I, personally, know MANY faithful Christians who have tattoos. I do not feel that the mere fact that they have ink on their skin is going to keep them from heaven. In fact, I have seen Christians use their tattoos to bond with others who are inked and not Christian and it was a foot in the door to get these people into the church. Remember, God does work in mysterious ways.

Some say that getting a tattoo is a sin and reference Leviticus 19:28: “You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you: I am the Lord.”

If simply reading the verse, the topic seems pretty cut-and-dry, but there is more to it than what meets the eye. This ceremonial law was given to the Nation of Israel, not the entire body of Christ, and this law was listed under Levitical law which was overturned when Jesus came and gave us new laws as a body of Christ. Not all of the laws given to Israel apply to the rest of us. For instance, here are some more Levitical laws we no longer follow (and these don’t cause as much of a stir as this one for some reason):

-Eating Fat (Leviticus 3:17)
-Letting your hair become unkempt (Leviticus 10:6)
-Wearing clothes with rips and/or holes (Leviticus 10:6)
-Drinking alcohol in Holy Places (Leviticus 10:9) [This one is a bit of a problem for all of the Catholics out there, huh?]
-Eating an animal with a divided hoof, i.e. pig or rabbit (Leviticus 11:4-7)
-Eating or touching the carcass of any seafood without fins or scales, i.e. anything besides fish like crawfish, crabs, lobster, shrimp, etc. (Leviticus 11:10-12)
-Going to church within 33 days after giving birth to a boy (Leviticus 12:4)
-Going to church within 66 days after giving birth to a girl (Leviticus 12:5)

That being said, in my opinion and through my reading of the Word, and my beliefs on the topic, I believe it can be a sin to get a tattoo, but it depends on your motivation, the image you are getting, and what your tattoo may say about you to others. I believe it is a personal decision and it is up to that person’s discretion. Think of what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 10:23: “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify.” If the tattoo you are getting helps, edifies, and shows Christ, then why not? If it may take some explaining and may distract people from Christ, then it may be something you may want to reconsider. My dad (who is completely anti-tattoo by the way) says “if you feel that strongly about something, buy the t-shirt.”

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A Super Special Father’s Day at Our House

Our two youngest daughters got saved during Vacation Bible School this year at our church. We were ecstatic. We were even more excited about what followed-their baptism. Because we have a blended family, it took a little shuffling to make sure everyone’s schedules could accommodate this joyous occasion, but finally, we were able to get them dunked! 🙂

I was thinking about how special baptism is, what it symbolizes in our lives, and then I started thinking about how God has a time and a plan for everything. How cool is it that our girls were baptized on Father’s Day?! A day that is meant to celebrate how important our father is to us and all he does in our lives…our girls got to give themselves to their Holy Father and made an outward confession of faith before the entire congregation to their “Capital F” Father.

How am I feeling about the whole thing? BLESSED!

Valentines Day: A Conspiracy?

No one knows the complete history on Valentines Day because the details are somewhat murky as to how Valentine’s Day has come to be and what we now know and celebrate. The story says that Saint Valentine served in third-century Rome. Emperor Claudius decided that single men made better soldiers. Therefore, Claudius banned soldiers from being married. One version of the story is that Valentine continued to perform the weddings of young soldiers who were in love, and Claudius had Valentine imprisoned. While imprisoned, Valentine reportedly fell in love with the jailer’s daughter. Valentine sent her a card and signed it, “Love, your Valentine” just before his execution. Because of this romantic gesture, now we are expected to show love and appreciation for the one(s) we love every February 14th.

Here are my problems with Valentine’s Day:

1. We should be showing those we love how special they are to us EVERY day. Don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to do something meaningful. Bring your girl some flowers “just because.” Cook your man a meal because you love him on a random Tuesday; not only on Valentine’s Day.

2. We should be showing love to EVERYONE.

John 13:34-35 says “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

3. You don’t have to spend money to show someone you care about them.

According to the National Retail Survey, men routinely spend double the amount on Valentine’s Day than women do. “The average man plans to shell out $135.35 to impress the people in his life while women only expect to spend $72.28.”

To me, as long as something is heart-felt and sincere, the cost doesn’t matter. If a man cooked me dinner, rented a movie, and spent the night snuggling on the couch, it would be just as nice, if not better, than going out to a fancy dinner and spending a bunch of money. We have made the “holiday” about what jewelry we’ll be receiving, what restaurant we’ll be dining at, and/or the dreaded “if he buys me a cheap box of chocolates from the drug store, he doesn’t care.” As long as he’s thinking about you, he cares.  Let’s just hope for the kind of person in our lives who shows us how much we mean to them more than one day per year.

4. Valentine’s Day is not about REAL LOVE. People feel mandated to have a “special someone” in their lives and will get into relationships they know will not last or stay in relationships that make them miserable just so they won’t be “that loser” on Valentine’s Day.

This gives many in our society a warped sense of what LOVE really is. It is not sticking it out so you get some jewelry or hooking up with a random guy so you have a story to tell your girlfriends. LOVE is such a special, unique, unexplainable emotion that we all can only hope to experience at some time in our lives.

The Bible Describes Love as the following:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

We are only able to fully love through God’s example because “God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

 

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Why We Should Control Our Temper

I am very prone to anger. I have a quick temper. My children probably cause this side of me to come out the most. They really know how to push my buttons. When they do this, I’m not going to lie, many times I overreact. In the past I have said things I shouldn’t have said…I think most of us can agree we’ve done that in a fit of anger. If I were to name my #1 fault that I needed to work on-it would be controlling my temper.

God doesn’t want us to be angry. In fact, if we give in to our nature and allow anger to take over, it can cause us to distance ourselves from God and cause eternal damnation.

When you get angry, what’s the first thing that happens? If you’re anything like me, you say, do, or think something mean and hurtful that is completely unnecessary.

The Bible says that “the tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21). So by being mean and saying hurtful things, even if just in a moment of anger, we can speak words of life and death. We can hurt someone physically, mentally, and spiritually. So why not control our tempers, our attitudes, and therefore, our words so that every word that is spoken from our lips is edifying to others and not harmful. Everything we say and do should glorify God.

Lord, I pray that you help me get rid of all of the anger in my life. Help me to learn to look to you in moments when I feel angered and give me a peaceful spirit that allows me to remain calm and go about the situation in a way that glorifies You.

Things to Remember:
“Be kind to unkind people-they need it the most.” -Anonymous
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” -Unknown
“The one that angers you controls you. Don’t give anyone that power-especially the one who does it intentionally.” -Anonymous
“Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else-you are the one who gets burned.”-Buddhist Principle

James 1:19-20

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,  for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

Proverbs 29:11

“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”

Psalm 37:8-9

“Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret–it leads only to evil.  For evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the LORD will inherit the land.”

Colossians 3:8

“But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”

Quit Talking About It & Start Praying About It

I’ve heard this saying my whole life. It’s something my youth minister used to say to us when we (the youth) would stand around talking about so-and-so and asking for prayer requests.

The Bible says “If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” Matthew 21:22

I know this can be a touchy topic because I think all of us have probably prayed for something that didn’t happen. When this situation happens, people tend to say that it just wasn’t God’s will, and apparently they’re right, but why?

I found this article called “Why Aren’t My Prayers Answered?”  (http://www.christiananswers.net/q-dml/dml-y002.html) and it brought up the following points:

  1.  We don’t really believe God can answer them. 

    Jesus said: “If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” (Matthew 21:22)

 

James wrote:

“But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does” (James 1:6-8).

Believing is perhaps the best known condition for prayer. But there are other reasons prayer is not answered.

2. We ask with wrong motives.

“When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures” (James 4:3).

3. Unconfessed sin separates us from God, so that He will not hear.

“Surely the arm of the Lord is not too short to save, nor His ear too dull to hear. But your iniquities (sins) have separated you from God; your sins have hidden his face from you so that He will not hear” (Isaiah 59:1-2).

4. We set up idols in our hearts that come between us and God.

“Son of man, these men have set up idols in their hearts and put wicked stumbling blocks before their faces. Should I let them inquire of me at all?” (Ezekiel 14:3)

5. We don’t answer those who cry to us for help.

“If a man shuts his ears to the cry of the poor, he too will cry out and not be answered” (Proverbs 21:13).

6. We don’t remain in God/God’s Word doesn’t remain in us.

“If you remain in me and my word remains in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be given to you” (John 15:7).

Even still, some of us may feel like we follow God’s law and do our best to follow it and still feel like our prayers aren’t always answered. Maybe it’s a timing issue. Everything happens on God’s watch and not ours so maybe it will happen; we just have to give it some time. And, as the Bible tells us, sometimes He allows us to go through things so we can learn and so we will allow God to be glorified through the situation.

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What Does It Mean to Change?

The Webster’s Dictionary defines “change” as “to become different; to become something else; to make radically different. Synonyms: to alter; to transform”

When times get hard, we have a tendency to ask God to deliver us from the situation. Many people even get angry when God allows something negative to happen in their lives. What they don’t think about is the fact that God has a plan for EVERYTHING.

Romans 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”

2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. “

When we TRULY accept Christ as our savior, we take on a new life. Life as we once knew it has to pass away so we can be a new creation in Him and be able to be used as vessel for Him.  We want God to be able to use us to minister to others. Sometimes, He even allows our past and the sins we committed before we turned to Him, to be the way we minister to someone else.

For me, personally, I made a lot of mistakes (and of course, I still make plenty daily) but God uses my past to teach others. I speak to other young people regularly and “scare them straight” so to speak, My life wasn’t “Lifetime Movie Network-worthy” or anywhere near it, by any means. But I’m a firm believer in being able to learn from one’s mistakes and I’ve made enough for several people!

Cast away your old self and allow God to move in you and through you to minister to others!

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God is Walking Beside You in Times of Trouble

How do we know God is with us?

Because we, as Christians, believe the Bible is “God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness…” (2 Timothy 3:16)

The Bible makes mention of how God stays beside us through it all in many verses

“Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life. You stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes; with your right hand you save me.” Psalm 138:7

“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love, lives in God and God in them.” 1 John 4:16

“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have because God has said ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

“The Lord, himself, goes before you and will be there with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

All of these verses have something in common. God is there. He is protecting you in times of trouble. He is showing you His unfailing love. He never leaves your side. He goes before you to make a way. He is living inside of you.

For an outsider looking in who doesn’t yet believe the Bible, if you ask the question “How do people know God is with them?”, I would have to say we have faith. I know that’s a “corny” answer, but it’s the truth. Christianity is all about Faith. We can’t see God, but we can feel Him. We can sense His presence. We can see His works in us and through us. Seeing isn’t believing, but believing is seeing. Through our faith and trust in God, and our belief that His Word is our guidebook, we are able to sense Him and see when He has stepped into our lives and made a way. Sometimes we feel alone just like you, but sometimes after getting through the thick of the storm, we can look back and see what He has done.

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The Importance of Giving to Others

We, as Christians, have a tendency to pick and choose what parts of the Bible we want to follow as instructions for our lives, but we can’t do that. We have to use ALL of God’s word to shed light on our path.

Even if you don’t have a lot of money to give away, you can give your time and/or your talents. You can volunteer for a soup kitchen. If you can play an instrument, you can take the time to teach a child (or adult for that matter) to play without charging. Sometimes, it’s the simple things like this that make a bigger impact than money ever could anyway…

It’s important to help others for the following reasons:

1. By helping others, we allow God to use us as His vessel and are able to minister and bless someone else; showing God’s glory.

Matthew 5:16 – “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

2. Helping others is a commandment that was physically uttered from Jesus’ very lips. As Christians, we strive to be Christ-like and what better way is there to do that than to do exactly as He spoke of doing?

Luke 3:10-11 – “And the crowds asked him, “What then shall we do?” And he answered them, “Whoever has two tunics is to share with him who has none, and whoever has food is to do likewise.”

John 15:12 – “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you…”

3. If we were having a hard time in life, we would appreciate the help. Have you ever heard the phrase: “Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes?” Well, it applies here.

Matthew 5:42 – “Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.”

4. Another phrase comes to mind: “You can’t take it with you.” Since we can’t take our earthly possessions into Heaven with us, why not use them to bless others here on earth that could really use them?

Luke 12:33-34 – “Sell your possessions, and give to the needy. Provide yourselves with moneybags that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.”

5. It makes you feel good.

I don’t know about you, but speaking for myself, when I donate clothes or food or my time, I feel better about myself. There is something so humbling about volunteering at a women’s shelter or serving food at a soup kitchen or even just donating clothes you don’t want anymore or rarely wear. It opens your eyes and you realize how good you really have it. I’m guilty of saying “I have nothing to wear” when my closet looks like this:

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or “I have nothing to eat” when my refrigerator looks like this:

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The truth is, most of us can’t even imagine how it would be to truly live without clothing or food.

According to the Food and Agriculture Administration, undernourishment currently affects 842 million people (about 1 in 8 or 12.5% of the world’s population). That’s outrageous!

The exact numbers are hard to validate, but most sources say there are an estimated 3.5 million homeless people in America; 1.35 million of whom are children. The National Center for Children in Poverty states that in addition to the staggering homeless numbers, there are approximately 32.4 million children living in low income families and 16.1 million living in poor families. (They don’t specify what they consider to be “low income” and “poor” though). All of these people need food, clothing, shelter, and yes, they still could use your talents. I know people don’t consider this a necessity, but children who are in extracurricular activities (sports, band, chorus, etc.) tend to thrive and do better in academics, as well as in life overall. They are able to set goals. They are able to multitask. They are able to live a life where their socioeconomic status is irrelevant.

Consider donating and helping others today. You don’t know just how much your blessing could truly help someone.

Below are some well-known organizations here in the United States to consider donating your time, talents, and funds to:

-American Cancer Society: Donate Blood, Bone Marrow, and/or Funds  for Cancer Research http://www.cancer.org/donate

-American Childhood Cancer Organization: This one is close to my heart because my daughter is fighting Leukemia (A.L.L.). https://acco.org/SupportUs/MakeaDonation.aspx

-Boys & Girls Club: helping youth grow through mentorship and activities http://bgca.org/donate/Pages/DonateByPhoneMail.aspx

-Doctors Without Borders: sending doctors to other countries to treat the sick https://donate.doctorswithoutborders.org/onetime.cfm

-Do you have a car that you no longer need/use? There are many organizations that could use your vehicle and you can choose which one to help out. Check out http://www.donatingiseasy.org/donate-car-to-charity.htm

-The Humane Society of the United States: help homeless animals http://www.humanesociety.org/donate [You can also look up your state, county, or city humane societies or animal rescue groups and donate]

-The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society: This one is close to my heart because my daughter is fighting Leukemia (A.L.L.). http://www.lls.org/waystohelp/donate/donateonline/

-The Libri Foundation: donate used hardcover children’s books to be distributed throughout rural public libraries http://www.librifoundation.org

-U.S. Hunger Relief Charity: Stocking food banks nationwide http://www.feedingamerica.org

There are many more out there! Do you have a topic of interest that is close to your heart (i.e. children, animals, the elderly, the homeless, etc.)? Then search it online, make sure it is a reputable organization, and do what you can to HELP OTHERS!

 

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God Commands Us to Love One Another & To Forgive

An enemy is anyone who has taken a personal interest in harming someone.  Although it isn’t always easy, in fact, I guess it’s probably never easy…we are commanded by God to love our enemies.

Jesus, himself, said “You have heard it said ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:43-45

You may be asking yourself WHY???

The first reason I believe we should love our enemies is because holding on to anger and grudges will allow us to be overcome with evil. [See previous blog post on this topic here: https://proverbsmomma.wordpress.com/2015/01/23/how-to-control-your-temper/%5D

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” James 1:19-20

The second reason we should love our enemies is because in doing so, our enemy loses. The reason someone decides to do something malicious to someone else is to get a reaction out of them. If you get angry when they do something to harm you, you are letting them have control of you. By keeping your cool and praying for them despite their evildoing, you are not only being a great example for Christ, but you are also allowing God to take care of the situation, rather than putting it in your hands and prolonging the problem.

“Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord. On the contrary: ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.’ Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:19-21

The third, and probably the most important, reason we should love our enemies is because it is what Jesus would do.

Even when the people of His time mocked Him, beat Him, drove nails through His hands and feet, pierced his flesh with thorns and a spear, in the end He shouted out to God and said “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” Luke 23:34

He did not hold malice in His heart towards the people. He prayed to God for his enemies. During his time on this earth, He ministered to the lowest of the low. He did not care about social status, wealth, profession, etc. He ministered to everyone and did so with a willing spirit because God was working through Him.

Do you remember those W.W.J.D. bracelets that were immensely popular in the 90’s and early 2000’s? Maybe it was just because of the circle of people I hung out with, or maybe because I live in the Bible belt (Georgia), but everyone used to wear those. I used to wear multiple bracelets at a time in different colors (because if I remember correctly, each color was supposed to represent something). Why don’t people LITERALLY wear Jesus on their sleeves anymore? We SHOULD! They are a great reminder to think and act like Christ.

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Additional Verses of Reference:

“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.” Colossians 3:13 NLT

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32

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Starting to Date in God’s Time

I had an epiphany the other night and I thought I would share it with you because it may help others out there as well.

I have been struggling with being a “newly” single woman (after divorce). I really miss having a man in my life. For all of the feminists out there, yes, I understand that a man is not necessary for happiness. I am perfectly happy. But I miss the passion, the love, the snuggling, etc. I miss having someone with whom to share my life. I’ve been single now for 3 years with not even so much as a prospect. I took this as a sign that I needed to change more about myself. I needed to get to know myself, independent of man since I had never been without one as an adult, and I feel I have done that.

I’ve been praying about it a lot lately-praying that God would send the right man into my life.

One problem I’m discovering is that I never go out. I am a full-time mom and I work a full-time job so never go out and meet new people. I don’t think that is a problem for God though…He would bring the man to my door if necessary. People have recommended internet dating to me, but the concept just seems so foreign. From what I’ve gathered from those sites, everyone lies, most of the men on there are already married or in a relationship, and there are several instances of people being murdered after meeting up from one of those sites. No thank you…it’s just not for me.

The other night, I was thinking about what it is that I truly miss about being with a man and here is what I decided…of course I miss intimacy with a man, but more than that I miss things like:

-having someone to share in the responsibilities (i.e. helping me take the kids to school, drive to doctor appointments, cook dinner, pack lunches, clean the house, do the dishes, do the laundry, walk the dog, etc.)

So in other words, I just need a maid or housekeeper or nanny. The things I miss here are not specific to a “male” role. I just miss having someone help me out because now, on top of working full-time, I have to do all of the chores as well. That’s no reason to marry someone.

-having an extra income [because let’s face it-3 people and a large dog (we have a standard poodle) on one income is tough]

Yes, it’s hard to have myself, two children, and a large dog (we have a standard poodle named Millie) on one income; especially since I miss a lot of work due to my daughter’s regular doctor appointments. But that’s no reason to marry someone. In fact it wouldn’t even be a factor when dating someone (how much they made).

I think I need to find some better reasons before God will bring the right person into my life. I need to stay focused on God because I know He knows what is best and will do what needs to be done in my life that will best glorify Him. I need to focus on making myself as close to perfect as I can be so when the right guy comes along, I’m 100% ready.

Christian author, Sheila Wray Gregoire, wrote an article called:

“Top 10 Ways to Get Ready for Your Future Husband”
You can read the whole article here: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2014/04/get-ready-for-future-husband/

And she says to do the following:

1. Pray–for you and your future husband.

Ask others to pray with you and for you. Are you asking God to bring you a man or a better man but not truly believing (by your actions and self talk) that you are worthy of the best, most gentle, loving and caring man? Are you praying for your future husband but not asking God to open your heart, mind and eyes to the lies you are currently believing and accepting? Are you not asking God to change you, mold you and prepare you for your future husband? If not, it is time to start.

2. Stop having premarital sex.

It does not matter if you are currently in a relationship. Stop and wait until your married. If he leaves you because of this, then you will know without a doubt that this person is not “the one”. It doesn’t matter if you have a child with this man, you have been dating him for 10 years or your relationship is new. This type of sin slowly chips away at your soul, self-worth and separates you from the relationship you were meant to have with God. You should be insulted as a beautiful and worthy woman of God, if he feels it is important to sample you before marrying you. By not waiting, you are the one in control of your life and you are choosing your own path. When you choose your own path over the one God has for you, you are missing out on the opportunities God wants for you–including the opportunity to meet someone who is really right for you.

3. Don’t Define Yourself by Your Boyfriend

If you feel your worth is defined by having a man in your life and having that man stay in your life depends on you giving him your precious body then you need to spend much more alone time with God and His word. Understand these are Satan’s lies you are believing to be true about yourself. These are lies.

4. Learn what real intimacy is.

Understand that sex is really NOT the intimacy and connection you desire and crave. Satan tells us it is readily available to us through sex. This is a huge lie designed to separate us from our Creator, think less of our selves and destroy our self-worth. See the lie for what it’s worth and turn yourself towards Gods truth.

5. Know that sex does not equal love.

Love is not full of lies, cheating eyes, nor cheating bodies. Love is not belittling and degrading comments or gestures. Love is not a strong abusive hand or voice. If you have believed this lie to be true know that you are worth so much more. Read what the bible says love is (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

6. Get involved in helping others.

Get involved at church, start a singles small group. Take up a hobby. Get yourself healthy – emotionally, spiritually and physically. And do this with your boyfriend, if you have one. His character will be revealed as you help others together. And if he doesn’t want to help? That’s a huge sign, too.

7. Love yourself through God’s eyes.

Believe His truths, speak His truths over and over in your head. Speak them out loud. Wrap yourself in the full armor of God and take captive every negative and sinful thought. Believe that you are worth waiting for and your future husband is worth waiting for. Prepare now for future temptation.

8. Realize that you can not pick and choose which parts of God’s word you choose to believe.

There are many sins which are the result of following with your flesh and not with your faith. Sex before marriage is one of those. Control your thoughts and your flesh will follow.

9. Own the truth that you are not alone.

You may feel alone but if you really dig deep into God’s word you will see that you are not alone. You are beautiful, precious and very much-loved. You are worthy and valuable. So much so that saving yourself for marriage…for your future…would be the ultimate gift to give to him. By not waiting you are in control of your life and choosing your own path. When you choose your path over the one God has for you, you are missing out on opportunities to meet someone who you will be able to serve God with fully.

10. Be patient as you get ready for your future husband.

While it may feel that God is making you wait forever, He is still preparing you. Remember He could still be at work in your future husband too. Even though you may be ready in God’s eyes, your soul mate is not ready yet. Be still while He readies him for you. Maybe your future husband is just as stubborn as you once were! Be patient and have faith.