The quote pictured above really spoke to me “You don’t have to attend every argument you are invited to.” Such a simple idea, but yet it’s so true and could be so significant in our lives.
2 Timothy 2:23-25 says “Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth.“
Most of the time when people argue, you can look back on that moment later and think about the insignificance of the topic you were even arguing about. If it is something you are truly passionate about and you’re trying to tell someone about it, you should speak calmly and use supportive evidence that shows how awesome it is. When you start off with an aggressive tone, the person/people you are talking to are automatically going to get defensive and an argument will ensue.
Many people will try to provoke you. They will say things that they know will get you “heated” on the topic. You have to be the bigger person though and know when to walk away. Have you ever heard the old playground adages that most people learn in elementary school like “I am rubber and you are glue. Whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you” or “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? Well, let them be your mantra. People spitting words at you does not have the power to provoke you to anger. Only you can control your words and actions and make sure everything that comes out of your mouth is glorifying God.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29