Why Is It So Hard to Speak Up and Share Christ?
There are many excuses we use as to why we don’t bring up the topic of Christ and share His message.
- We are shy and don’t know how to spark a conversation with someone.
God gives everyone different gifts (Ephesians 4:11-12). Some people have the gift of evangelism, some people have musical talent, etc. Now, just because you don’t have “the gift” of evangelism, doesn’t mean you should use that as an excuse to not spread the Word. For the extremely shy though, living your life as Christ would live speaks more than you know. Have you ever heard of the phrase “actions speak louder than words?” Well, it’s 100% true! If you live your life serving others, showing love to everyone, and glorifying God through your actions, you can bring others to Christ because they will wonder what you have that sets you apart. It’s the conversation starter you’ve been looking for and you never even had to open your mouth. If the situation presents itself, you should speak up.
If you are truly uncomfortable, you can tell them what you are sure of: you can tell them that Jesus lived on this earth, he died to take away your sin (because “the wages of sin is death”-Romans 6:23), and that on the third day, he rose again. Then you can tell them about accepting Jesus into their heart and changing their life, and/or you could invite them to church to learn more, and/or you could tell them you will go with them to speak to your minister so you both can learn more and he/she could help you lead your friend to the Lord.
- We are nervous that they’ll ask questions and we won’t know how to answer.
I’ve heard many people say they are nervous about trying to lead someone to Christ because the person may ask questions for which they don’t know the answer. This can definitely be a set-back. When you are teaching someone about a topic, you are supposed to know the ins and outs of the topic so you can properly educate them. Not knowing all of the answers is nothing to be ashamed of though. There are many things you can do if they ask you a question that you don’t know how to answer:
- Look it up with them so you can both be educated on the matter
- Refer them to your minister for more information
- Invite them to church with you and before/after service, you can ask your minister together
1 Peter 3:15 we are all called on to “set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.”
Regardless of the route you take, make sure to be honest with them. It’s okay to tell them you don’t know the answer. They’ll appreciate your honesty.
Also, if you read and meditate on the Word of God often, you will learn a lot of information that may benefit you in leading others to God. That’s one of the reasons it’s so important to be in the Word! As Christians, it is our manual for life.
- We worry about losing their friendship or those people seeing you differently.
When you accept Christ, you may lose friends. It’s just a fact of life. As a new creation in Christ, you have to change your life. Your former self has passed away and now you are striving to be Christ-like. This means you may have to stop doing some of the things you and your friends/family were doing before and this can cause tension. It’s important to make new friends that share the same faith as you. You will both have the same belief system and be better influences on each other. You can also encourage one another in Christ and help each other to grow in your new faith. If your old friends were TRUE friends and care enough about you, they will see how much better your life has become in Christ and want to be with you so they’ll change and your actions can bring them to Christ.
Ephesians 4:22-24 says “To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. “
- We worry that we will say or do something that hinders them coming to Christ.
If you quote scripture and stay true to the essence of Christianity, you aren’t going to hinder someone coming to Christ.
It’s important to remember you didn’t fail if they didn’t want to learn more or accept Christ. We may be a vessel for God that planted the seed in their heart/mind, but not the one to bring them to God and that is perfectly okay. Some people may need to have that seed grow for a while before they are ready to accept God. That is no reflection on you. It’s all about the person you are speaking to, their timing, and God’s timing. I heard someone once say “we may only be a link in the chain” of leading someone to Christ so don’t become overwhelmed.
Here are some steps that may help you when/if you find yourself in the situation to share God with someone:
- PRAYER and lots of it! We can pray for particular people, we can pray for opportunities in our lives, we can pray for courage/strength, we can pray for healing/health, we can pray for God to show us the right way to go in life, we can pray that God uses us to glorify Him and bring others to Him, we can pray for just about anything.
- Tell them the importance of the Bible and how it is the guide book for our lives. In Romans 1:16, Paul says that he is “not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes.”
- John 3:16 is the perfect verse to quote and sum up everything that Christianity is based on: “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life.”
- It is also good to prepare yourself for the most common questions. We can do this by knowing how others think (if they’re a friend/family member), their world view and/or objections to Christianity, and where common inconsistencies and misconceptions lie. For example, if you are speaking to someone who is a homosexual, you don’t want the first verses you quote to them to be about how homosexuality is a sin and a man should not lie with a man. Yes, the Bible does say this, but let’s focus on the verses that give affirmation and comfort and strength and hold of on the condemning verses. I’m not saying to ignore those verses forever, but making someone feel condemned or shunning them is not the right way to bring someone to Christ either. That’s why many people resent Christians. They feel like we beat them over the head with the information and don’t live like Christ. Many live like their better than everyone else and that’s just not the case.
Romans 3:23-“For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.”
I’ll leave you with these verses:
“And He said to them, ‘Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature.’” Mark 16:15
“And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in all the world as a witness to all the nations, and then the end will come.” Matthew 24:14
“Declare His glory among the nations, His wonders among all peoples.” Psalms 96:3
“Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:19-20