Where is God when I’m Hurting?

I like to Google different things to see what people are searching so I can give my thoughts/opinions on those topics. I typed in “Where’s God when…” and “I’m Hurting” was one of the answers that popped up so I decided to touch on it.

Many people, whether they be Christians or not, use this “where is God when I’m hurting” as a way to prove His existence.

Non-Christians say that God wouldn’t allow them to hurt. The fact that they are struggling in their lives and feeling so much hurt, abandonment, doubt, and other negative feelings, means that God doesn’t exist (in their minds) because they misunderstand who God is.

Christians are bad about using cliché phrases like “If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it” and “God only gives you what you can handle”; instead of giving useful advice. I’m not saying these phrases are inaccurate, but they are very generic phrases and don’t hold much weight to a person who is genuinely struggling with something in their lives.

There’s one thing that’s for certain about someone who is genuinely struggling and hurting, going through that will change them. Whether it be for better or for worse, the experience will change them. It will either pull them closer to the Lord or push them further away from God. During difficult times in our lives, you can either get stronger in your relationship with God or weaker. Most people tend to seek God and pray harder and pull closer to Him, but if the pain worsens or the results they prayed about don’t come to pass, many will push God aside and think He didn’t hear them, He ignored them, He doesn’t love them, etc., but that’s just not the case. When you are in pain, it is hard to see clearly and be able to see that God always knows what is best and has a purpose for everything.

Job is a prime example in the Bible of God’s love for someone. Job’s entire family was murdered, his livestock was slaughtered, his good health was taken from him, and everything he had faded away, but he still held fast to God and in the end, God blessed him.

Although this phrase has become cliché in today’s society, God does get you through any situation and may push you to your breaking point, but that’s only because when you are broken, He can pick up all the pieces and make you whole again. Only with Christ can you truly be whole. God wants you to come to Him in your moments of weakness so He can hold you and love you, as your heavenly father.

“But God knows the way that I take, and when He tested me. I will come out like gold.” Job 23:10


2014 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.


Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 710 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 12 trips to carry that many people.

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Where is God when I’m Scared?

To come up with my topic for today, I googled, “Where is God when I’m…” and “scared” was the first response.

As a mother, I hear the “I’m scared” excuse WAY more than it should ever be uttered. And sometimes with kids, it’s hard to tell if they truly are scared or if they use being scared as a crutch because they know that you, as their parent, don’t want to force them to do anything that scares them. I feel like my kids are more scared of things than other kids their age (I have no proof of this or any comparisons to hold them against, but I don’t remember being scared of everything like they are when I was a kid). When I was a child, I was afraid of “normal” things like snakes, spiders, and heights. Even now, I feel my fears are justified: terrorists, child molesters, rapists, and the forever-fears of snakes, spiders, and heights. My children, on the other hand, are afraid of dust bunnies, thunder, the dark, sleeping alone in their rooms, rats, taking a shower rather than a bath, splinters, creepy dolls, loud noises, etc. (all of these just came from my daughter when I asked her and she seriously freaks out over these things). It’s crazy to me! Do any fellow parents have this issue?

Anyway, back to topic, my children are always living in a world of fear (in their eyes).

Deutoronomy 31:6 says “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

This is the promise I reassure my kids of when they are scared. Sometimes I reassure myself of this verse…not necessarily when I’m scared of something, but in many situations in life. When my 7-year-old daughter, Bella, was in a coma earlier this year because of her weakened immune system (from her Leukemia), there were several times we didn’t think she was going to make it. The doctors had sent in the chaplains to speak with me to prepare myself. I listened to them, and did prepare myself (as best I could anyway-no one could ever fully prepare themselves for the loss of a child). Through it all, I prayed over Bella A LOT and kept remembering that God was with us. We just had to stay strong. I know a LOT of people were praying for her from all over the world (via her Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/isabellavsleukemia) and God heard our prayers.

Psalm 56:3-4 “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I shall not be afraid. What can flesh do to me?”

If we just remember these verses and know that God is with us wherever we go, it would change our outlook on life. Think about it, The Lord, God Almighty is walking beside you every day in every place that you go. How awesome is that?!

Many of the courageous men and women in the Bible were, I’m sure, scared. Daniel was in a den with lions. Esther went to the king without being called upon. Jonah was swallowed by a whale. But you know what?! God never left any of them. And He will never leave you.

So where is He when you’re scared?
He’s right there with you. He’s holding your hand. He’s hurting with you. He’s loving you. He’s protecting you. He’s holding you. God will never leave you.

A Personal Note & Explanation of Posts (or Lack Thereof)

On a personal note-my family had a lovely holiday season (Thanksgiving & Christmas). I hope yours did too! For those of you who have asked about Bella’s health: She is doing really well (knock-on-wood) 😉 We live in Georgia, which is one of the top 5 states hit by the flu. Just about everyone we know has had it or currently has it, including several coworkers. Because of this, we’ve been in “seclusion” of sorts to try and keep Bella safe. Her little brother, Nolyn, started pre-school this year and because of this, has been sick a large part of the year and has been exiled to his Papa’s house (although he doesn’t mind…he enjoys the “boy-time”). They’ve had to stay separated a lot which stinks, but it’s for the best. I keep telling myself we are almost through it. Bella only has about a year left of treatment and then it’s back to a “normal” life. I can’t wait for that!!! No more pills, chemo treatments, needle pokes, etc. Her hair can grow back fully, she can quit getting mouth-sores and plantar warts on her feet, she can go back to school without worry (although I will of course still worry). She can be a “normal” kid. Please follow her page on Facebook to keep track of her: http://www.facebook.com/isabellavsleukemia

Okay…now to cover the lack of posts to my page recently. WordPress allows you to post things with a scheduled date and time of delivery. I don’t always get the chance to sit at my computer and put all my thoughts/words down into a coherent message for this blog so when I do, I try to type up several at a time. I then change the publish date/time so I can post at least one post per week (maybe more). What I didn’t realize was that I set the date to 2015 instead of 2014 (a brief oversight on my part) so please know that I haven’t forgotten about you. I didn’t want to publish ALL of those posts right now to flood my page, but I will be posting them daily/weekly/biweekly and catching you guys up 🙂 Thanks for understanding.